Is Adventurous Running the Key to a Happy Life?

I had breakfast with a friend recently and our conversation drifted all over the place. We discussed work, leadership, and creating a life with meaning. Building a purposeful life is different for me now that I am in my 60s than it was when I was thirty. During the conversation my running adventures came up.  Running is now a core part of my identity.

As we parted ways, my friend said to me “Ray with your running adventures and outlook you have the best grasp of the work/life balance of anyone I know.” That was one of the nicest compliments I have ever received. I am not sure if she thought that because I have a handle on work/life balance or if it’s just that everyone else she knows, doesn’t!  I would like to think it is the former. I will admit that for some reason I find balancing life easier now than when I was younger.

I also think that she hit on a key reason for my perceived balance—my adventures in ultra-marathon running.  It doesn’t seem immediately intuitive that taking additional time out of my busy life to run for long periods of time would add balance to my life, but it has. I have to say I am happy in my life. I am not sure why I am afraid to admit that but I am. It’s not that everything goes my way but a snub or conflict at work does not define me. I think too many people have their identity wrapped up in their work. More on that later.

Yet I knew that she was correct that my running has led to much more happiness. I wasn’t sure why. But I knew in my heart that it was true.

The next day I picked up a week-old copy of the New York Times that I had meant to read but hadn’t found the time. After I read the articles for which I had saved the paper for, I serendipitously noticed a small headline about a podcast Why are People Drawn to Extreme Sports. This reignited my thinking of how ultra-running had changed me. Since this was a paper newspaper (Yes, on weekends I still get a paper copy of the New York Times.) I had to do a quick search and found the podcast Speaking of Psychology: Why are People Drawn to Extreme Sports. The guest was an Australian psychologist Dr. Eric Brymer. I thought maybe this might explain my experience.

I almost didn’t listen to the whole podcast because his definition of “extreme sports” was a narrow one. A criterion was that possible death was the result of a miscalculation. For example, cliff jumping or rock climbing with just your hands and no equipment.  While Dr. Brymer would not consider ultra running an “extreme sport” his profile of the individuals who participate in those sports did resonate with my personal experiences and motivations.

When you think of why people would get involved in such sports, including ultra-running, there is a two-part question. First: Why did they start down that road?  The more important question though is: Why do they continue to pursue these endeavors even as they age? I have pondered why I can’t stop and why do I push myself? It was hard to explain but Dr. Brymer’s findings affirm my feelings. He states that “Actually, what we find is for most participants, the reason they continue is because they get something so powerfully transformational and beneficial from it.”

That is a good description of why I continue. There are benefits to ultra-running that Dr. Brymer touches on. It has been known for a long time that physical activity is good for the body and the soul.  It is also known that being outdoors near nature is good for you as well so any activity that combines both is good for you. What separates “extreme” sports and I will include ultra-running in that from other activities is that you almost always get tested personally. Your planning, preparation and skills are always being tested. Each race is so different that every race is an adventure.

This brings me back to my friend who thought that somehow, I have a balanced life, and that my running had something to do with it. Dr. Brymer would agree. As he states “…doing the adventure, and the extreme sport, does change your attitude in everyday life as well. It changes the way you interact with others, the way you experience your relationship with the natural world, it changes the way you experience everyday activities.”

Both my friend and Dr. Brymer used the same word – adventure. My perception of life has changed through all these adventures. I have definitely gathered more confidence in my ability not just in running long distances but in my ability to do other things in my life. Yet there is more to it.

Much as traveling to faraway places broadens our experiences, ultra-running does the same for me. Dr. Brymer makes the case that humans by nature are adventurous beings. We pretty much expanded our homelands to the entire globe from a humble beginning in Africa.

Extreme sports (and I would include ultra-running) are very adventurous activities. They do make you feel more alive than sitting in an office on your computer. Nowadays we generally have safe comfortable lives, and technology makes our lives even easier every day. It is hard to break away from comfort of a recliner with a remote control, Siri, and your cellphone. We do for the most part have our food and shelter taken care of. Yet it is when we break away from that comfortable life when we really start to live.

I mentioned at the beginning that many people have their identity wrapped up in their work. To their credit they are usually very competent at their work. Maybe because that is the only part of their life in which they find adventure. Yet I have seen too many of them stay too long at a job because that is what identifies them. Having interests and activities outside of your work is healthier. It also makes you more interesting.

I believe that Dr. Brymer did hit on something when he spoke about doing something that is adventurous, although my definition would probably be more expansive than his. I think an adventurous endeavor is a more personal event. It does not have to be death-defying to be adventurous. The author Eudora Welty once wrote “All serious daring starts from within.”  An adventure just needs to be something that takes you out of your comfort zone and also tests you a bit.

For example, I ran the Grand Canyon Rim-to-Rim-to-Rim unsupported and solo. Something that Dr. Brymer might even said was “extreme” though as I was doing it I kept thinking to myself. I would love to do this slower. It wouldn’t be a harder adventure, but it would still be an adventure.

Some of my most memorable, uplifting and spiritual runs were not extremely difficult. Whether it was a desert run in Zion National Park, a rainy and windy run up along a rugged coastline of Ireland, or even a nice run on a country road in New England, they all had a bit of adventure to them. While they were in nature and had physical activity tied to them, they were far from extreme.

So, adventure is good for you, and you don’t necessarily have to go to extremes to find it. In fact, a good place to start is by looking within yourself.