The Race Bling for A Race For The Ages (ARFTA) is Friendship

I was walking around the A Race For The Ages (ARFTA) course in Manchester, Tennessee waiting for my start time when I spied someone who had the same race shirt as I did. Mine was in my plastic bin with all my other gear as I was planning on wearing it the next day. Yet this shirt from the Hainesport Endurance Race was from last year and almost certainly meant that runner was from my home state of New Jersey. So, I approached him and I soon had a new friend, Walt. That is the magic of ARFTA – you seem to always make a new friend.

Even before the race started, friendships were being made. I arranged to have dinner with a perfect stranger from Texas, Dave. I didn’t realize that he had two other Texans with him, Michael and Patty. When Dave introduced me to the two of them and Patty heard I was from New Jersey she replied, “So you’re a Yankee!” We all laughed. Sometimes I do feel like an out of place visitor when I travel, except at races. It is my home away from home. It was wonderful to share a great dinner with them and talk about ultra-running. It is not often that I eat dinner with people and they know who Sally McRae, Courtney Dauwalter, and Ashley Paulson are.

The next morning at the hotel breakfast, I met Ed who was also eating breakfast. We also talked a while about running. He was an impressive runner, having finished the Bigfoot 200, a grueling 200-plus-mile run through the Cascades of Washington State with more than  40,000 feet of elevation change. That is something I am not sure I could do. He would also be starting with me since we were in the same age group.

My Friends from Texas

An hour before my start time I checked in and picked up my race bling. I love my race bling, and my wife knows that race shirts, mugs, medals and other bling should never be thrown out. The ARFTA race has great bling. This year it was a participation trophy, a tote bag, a sweatshirt, and an umbrella. (Something I never received before.) A great cache of goodies. Yet the keepsakes I prize most are the friendships that are made.

I go to a lot of races, and I always find people to connect with but at ARFTA it seems easier and more frequent. The connections also seem slightly deeper.

I am not sure why that is. It is not because the course is beautifully laid out. It is mostly on a black asphalt parking lot that zigzags around in an unusual pattern. It is not because of the weather –it is always hot and made even hotter by the asphalt. This year it was more brutal than usual in that temperatures rose to over 100 degrees during the day. It is not because of the food. While it is plentiful and filling, it is provided by Cracker Barrel, so it is definitely not for everyone, especially if you are a vegetarian. It is not because of the location, because while the city of Manchester is nice, Conde Nast Traveler isn’t considering sending over a reporter to do a featured piece on the city.

Looking at it now it may be precisely because the course is so hot that it brings people together. We are all miserable together. We are all going through the same thing whether we are in the top ten or the bottom ten in the standings. There is a camaraderie that is built through this common misery.

The other thing is that your race hours are calculated by your age. You get as many hours as you are old. So, the older you are the longer you are out there. You see the same people over the course of three days if you include set up and registration. Because the route is snaky you see people more often across the parking lot. Even when you are resting, your camp is usually close to the course, so you see runners pass on by regularly.

The connection is not just with other runners but with their family or friends that are crewing them. The crews can be just as invested in the race as the runners. On this race I was coming around finishing a lap when the race director, Sandra, greeted me with an ice pop. It was like a gift from heaven. When I thanked her for the pop and that it was a great idea, she said “We didn’t do it. It was someone from North Carolina.”  I immediately said “Sarah!” They said, “How did you know?” She was camped across from me last year crewing her dad. She bought ice pops last year. She had so much fun and so admired everyone that she was following this year’s race, even though her father was not participating. That is the magic of ARFTA.

There were so many other people I met who were just fun to share a course with. Ruth and Paul, who are a dynamic team. Melissa, who thanked me profusely for lending her a hammer. Steve, who once again dominated the race with his amazing pace. However, Ann Trason was the most inspiring to me. She was once the premier female ultra runner in the country, having set 20 world records. She was a pioneer for women ultra-runners. Now, beset by rheumatoid arthritis as well as other health issues, she keeps going. At 66 she completed 100 miles with a walker. I had the privilege of walking with her for a couple of laps. I told her what she is doing now is more impressive than when she was dominating the women’s field.

Yes, I love the challenge of pushing myself to my limits but that is not what keeps me coming back. When Walt and I chatted before the race we agreed that we come back to races like this because of the people. In world that seems so hopelessly divided it is great to go to a place in which everyone is so supportive of each other, everyone is trying their best, and even when things go wrong like the heat, we share our misery together. Also, you always see runners like Ann Trason who inspire you.

When I got home, I collected my last race bling. I “friended” the runners I got to know on social media. I now can follow their running exploits. I ran/walked a total of 151 miles, but I always remember the conversations and the people just as much as the miles. Maybe more. That is why I will return.

New Jersey in the House

John Bulina a Kind and Generous Man

I was running from the Cape May Lighthouse at the southern end of New Jersey to the doorsteps of a house in Tabernacle, New Jersey.  It was a journey of more than 80 miles, and was not even halfway to our final destination at High Point, N.J., at the northern tip of the state.

The journey had not gone smoothly. We had started as three runners, but one had to drop out and this caused us a delay in our schedule.  When we arrived in Tabernacle, I knocked on the door gently because it was after midnight. I was very cognizant of the way sound travels in the wee hours. My running partner Anthony had collapsed on the front steps. I was also praying that I had arrived at the right house. If it was the wrong house, I would have to explain what I was doing at this house to a police officer.

The door opened and it was my friend John Bulina. I apologized profusely for being a couple of hours behind schedule and keeping him up. He would have none of it. He was glad to help us in our trek across the length of New Jersey. He showed us where we could sleep and apologized that he and his wife were off early in the morning but urged us to make use of their kitchen in the morning.

The next morning, we rose and John was gone, but there were muffins, bagels, coffee, and juice left for us.  We were on a journey so we could not stay long. Anthony, however, as we ran, asked me about John. He was amazed by his kindness and generosity.  I told him that I knew him through my work at the New Jersey School Boards Association (NJSBA). I mentioned that John was a past state officer and president of the association. Anthony had met him only for a few minutes and was barely awake at the time. He just shook his head and was so impressed.

Last week when I received a call that John had passed away, I thought of that encounter. It spoke volumes and was emblematic of John’s character.  While Anthony was a bit flabbergasted at his generosity I don’t think anyone who knew John during his tenure at NJSBA would be shocked.

John’s tenure in leadership at NJSBA was marked by his kindness towards NJSBA staff and the volunteer board members he served with. I know for a fact that both Marie Bilik and Dr. Lawrence Feinsod, the NJSBA executive directors who worked with John when he was a state officer, appreciated his input.  Even if he had some negative input, it was always done with kindness and understanding. That is what made him stand out, his sincerity and kindness.

I know that with me he always talked to me not just as a staff member but as an individual. Unlike many work relationships, our conversations were more about life outside of work such as family, travel, and athletics. John was an avid skier, soccer coach, and golfer.

John was a naturally curious man as well. He loved it when people brought new ideas up. He didn’t shut them down but was eager to try them.  Years ago, when NJSBA was exploring its relationship with the U.S. Army and the idea of STEAM Tank was first floated John was huge fan and a catalyst for both initiatives.  STEAM Tank was a program that made students use Science, Technology, Engineering, Arts, and Mathematics in a competition modeled after the TV show Shark Tank. John was sold on the idea and was constantly supporting not only the executive director, but all staff involved in the program, and his support was heartily welcomed by the staff.

His curiosity made him a great conversationalist. He had a unique background and was interested in what other people were doing.

Once you spend what seems like an eon at place like NJSBA as I have (more than 28 years) you look back and realize what seems like just a short time ago  to ago toold history to newer employees. I realized most of the current staff had never worked with John. He had not served on his board for about ten years. Yet, he left his mark at the association as the STEAM Tank Challenges exemplified.

Yet I think what most of us will remember most about John was his warmth, generosity, and kindness.  When he was president, he would come to NJSBA headquarters dressed as Santa Claus and spread cheer during the holiday season.

What I didn’t say about John opening up his house to me was that it was his idea.  He called me up when he saw my planned journey. He said if I needed a place to stay that I was more than welcome, especially since I would be running right near his home. This offer came despite the fact that we hadn’t worked together for about six years. That was John—always thinking of how he could help others. While this is my story, I am sure that many others can share a positive story about John.

It was a warmth and generosity that anyone could spot. Even my friend Anthony who was barely able to walk or stand and only saw John for less than 20 minutes could sense that this was a good man. We will all miss that most about him.

Rest in peace my friend.

 

Is Adventurous Running the Key to a Happy Life?

I had breakfast with a friend recently and our conversation drifted all over the place. We discussed work, leadership, and creating a life with meaning. Building a purposeful life is different for me now that I am in my 60s than it was when I was thirty. During the conversation my running adventures came up.  Running is now a core part of my identity.

As we parted ways, my friend said to me “Ray with your running adventures and outlook you have the best grasp of the work/life balance of anyone I know.” That was one of the nicest compliments I have ever received. I am not sure if she thought that because I have a handle on work/life balance or if it’s just that everyone else she knows, doesn’t!  I would like to think it is the former. I will admit that for some reason I find balancing life easier now than when I was younger.

I also think that she hit on a key reason for my perceived balance—my adventures in ultra-marathon running.  It doesn’t seem immediately intuitive that taking additional time out of my busy life to run for long periods of time would add balance to my life, but it has. I have to say I am happy in my life. I am not sure why I am afraid to admit that but I am. It’s not that everything goes my way but a snub or conflict at work does not define me. I think too many people have their identity wrapped up in their work. More on that later.

Yet I knew that she was correct that my running has led to much more happiness. I wasn’t sure why. But I knew in my heart that it was true.

The next day I picked up a week-old copy of the New York Times that I had meant to read but hadn’t found the time. After I read the articles for which I had saved the paper for, I serendipitously noticed a small headline about a podcast Why are People Drawn to Extreme Sports. This reignited my thinking of how ultra-running had changed me. Since this was a paper newspaper (Yes, on weekends I still get a paper copy of the New York Times.) I had to do a quick search and found the podcast Speaking of Psychology: Why are People Drawn to Extreme Sports. The guest was an Australian psychologist Dr. Eric Brymer. I thought maybe this might explain my experience.

I almost didn’t listen to the whole podcast because his definition of “extreme sports” was a narrow one. A criterion was that possible death was the result of a miscalculation. For example, cliff jumping or rock climbing with just your hands and no equipment.  While Dr. Brymer would not consider ultra running an “extreme sport” his profile of the individuals who participate in those sports did resonate with my personal experiences and motivations.

When you think of why people would get involved in such sports, including ultra-running, there is a two-part question. First: Why did they start down that road?  The more important question though is: Why do they continue to pursue these endeavors even as they age? I have pondered why I can’t stop and why do I push myself? It was hard to explain but Dr. Brymer’s findings affirm my feelings. He states that “Actually, what we find is for most participants, the reason they continue is because they get something so powerfully transformational and beneficial from it.”

That is a good description of why I continue. There are benefits to ultra-running that Dr. Brymer touches on. It has been known for a long time that physical activity is good for the body and the soul.  It is also known that being outdoors near nature is good for you as well so any activity that combines both is good for you. What separates “extreme” sports and I will include ultra-running in that from other activities is that you almost always get tested personally. Your planning, preparation and skills are always being tested. Each race is so different that every race is an adventure.

This brings me back to my friend who thought that somehow, I have a balanced life, and that my running had something to do with it. Dr. Brymer would agree. As he states “…doing the adventure, and the extreme sport, does change your attitude in everyday life as well. It changes the way you interact with others, the way you experience your relationship with the natural world, it changes the way you experience everyday activities.”

Both my friend and Dr. Brymer used the same word – adventure. My perception of life has changed through all these adventures. I have definitely gathered more confidence in my ability not just in running long distances but in my ability to do other things in my life. Yet there is more to it.

Much as traveling to faraway places broadens our experiences, ultra-running does the same for me. Dr. Brymer makes the case that humans by nature are adventurous beings. We pretty much expanded our homelands to the entire globe from a humble beginning in Africa.

Extreme sports (and I would include ultra-running) are very adventurous activities. They do make you feel more alive than sitting in an office on your computer. Nowadays we generally have safe comfortable lives, and technology makes our lives even easier every day. It is hard to break away from comfort of a recliner with a remote control, Siri, and your cellphone. We do for the most part have our food and shelter taken care of. Yet it is when we break away from that comfortable life when we really start to live.

I mentioned at the beginning that many people have their identity wrapped up in their work. To their credit they are usually very competent at their work. Maybe because that is the only part of their life in which they find adventure. Yet I have seen too many of them stay too long at a job because that is what identifies them. Having interests and activities outside of your work is healthier. It also makes you more interesting.

I believe that Dr. Brymer did hit on something when he spoke about doing something that is adventurous, although my definition would probably be more expansive than his. I think an adventurous endeavor is a more personal event. It does not have to be death-defying to be adventurous. The author Eudora Welty once wrote “All serious daring starts from within.”  An adventure just needs to be something that takes you out of your comfort zone and also tests you a bit.

For example, I ran the Grand Canyon Rim-to-Rim-to-Rim unsupported and solo. Something that Dr. Brymer might even said was “extreme” though as I was doing it I kept thinking to myself. I would love to do this slower. It wouldn’t be a harder adventure, but it would still be an adventure.

Some of my most memorable, uplifting and spiritual runs were not extremely difficult. Whether it was a desert run in Zion National Park, a rainy and windy run up along a rugged coastline of Ireland, or even a nice run on a country road in New England, they all had a bit of adventure to them. While they were in nature and had physical activity tied to them, they were far from extreme.

So, adventure is good for you, and you don’t necessarily have to go to extremes to find it. In fact, a good place to start is by looking within yourself.

Can a Great Blue Heron be a Sign from the Universe to Me?

Do you believe that sometimes the universe (or God) sends you a sign? Most cultures believe in omens and signs. They believe that crossing paths with a certain animal means something.

I will be honest. I thought a lot of this was hooey. I was extremely skeptical when someone would tell me they saw a cardinal and thought that it was their Uncle Joe visiting them. Yet this last week something happened that made me question my beliefs.

Since I broke my shoulder and can’t run, I have been walking the routes I normally run. While I enjoy the walks, the physical pain of this injury—along with the fact that I miss running—has been difficult for me.  

I live in an area full of lakes and ponds. So seeing a great blue heron is not a rarity. But every time I see one, I feel blessed somehow. To me they are majestic birds. But they are not a sign.

Yet as I walked by a local pond and looked over there was a great blue heron not ten feet from me. We were both in an open area so he obviously saw me but was not fearful. I whipped out my phone quickly and with my one good hand took a quick photo and continued on my walk. Later when I looked at the photo I was shocked at how great it came out. My wife, who is an amateur photographer, was amazed. The coloring of the bird was a vibrant blue and gray. The trees reflected a gorgeous green halo around the heron in the pond. It was a very lucky shot.

The next day, at another lake, I saw a great blue heron again. This time it was not on the water’s edge but about 30 feet in the forest. We looked at each other, and I paused before I walked on. He was in an unusual spot I thought. Maybe he was hunting chipmunks because I saw them scurrying nearby. I had never seen one there before.

Then the next day things changed dramatically. I was doing a long walk around a neighboring lake when once again I came across a great blue heron. He was near a boat rack full of kayaks and canoes. He looked at me as I went for my phone and then took off in flight across the lake. I stood there a while and watched him gracefully cross the lake. As I continued around the lake to the area where he had flown to, I saw the same bird walking from someone’s lakefront yard onto the road along the lake. He was strolling down the middle of the road. He was a good 300 feet from the water. As I got closer to him (Actually I keep referring to the heron as a he but I am no ornithologist and can’t tell the gender.) He crossed the road into a yard even further from the lake.

I am sure some people would say this was not unusual, that it was simply normal behavior for a great blue heron. But to me, it felt like more than coincidence. This skeptical cynic found himself going down an internet rabbit hole about the symbolism of the great blue heron. Maybe the universe was trying to tell me something, and I had been too cynical to understand it—or even to notice.

What did the heron symbolize, and how might it apply to me—if it did at all? Herons are famously solitary birds. They hunt alone and are known for their patience. They live at the water’s edge, yet they seem equally at home in the air, on land, and along the shore. Many cultures, including Christianity, associate the great blue heron with spirituality. Some even see a heron sighting as a sign that God is watching over them. I was surprised by how many people believed herons carried that kind of meaning.

Because the heron is a solitary bird, many people see it as a symbol of inner strength and determination. I came across one line about the heron’s symbolism that resonated with me: “Alone we have to face our fears, look at our gifts, and be in harmony with our world.” Yes, we need others, but sometimes we still have to face things on our own.

I stopped my internet searching for a while but came back to it. Was this bird my new “spirit” animal? I argued with myself. It was just a sighting, nothing more than that.

Yet I couldn’t shake the thought that there was something to this. I had suffered a broken shoulder and was healing steadily but slowly.  Maybe I needed to practice the patience of the heron on this healing journey. The physical therapy needed was solely on me. I needed to have some determination and inner strength to not only heal but to run again.

I started to read what I had written and I wondered if I was taking this too far.  A part of me still wanted to dismiss the whole thing.

Yet there I was with an injury and needing to heal and feeling great frustration and these weird sightings occurred. A beautiful picture that seemed to be taken by someone else. Herons in strange locations crossing my path. I chose to believe that there was something. Maybe I was making more of it than I should.

But when I learned about the symbolism associated with herons it felt like something I needed to do more than read about—I needed to channel it.  I know that some readers will think that I am reading too much into this. Others will most assuredly say that the universe or God does send us signs. What do you think?

There is a Price for Pushing Yourself to Your Limits in an Ultra

 

“I owned every second that this world could give
I saw so many places
The things that I did
Yeah, with every broken bone
I swear I lived” – OneRepublic

I believe strongly in pushing yourself to your limits.

Most times we do not even know what our limits are, or what we are capable of until we push ourselves. I have accomplished some things in running that I never dreamed of.

Since reaching the age of 60, I have run numerous races and ultra-marathons that I am proud of. Listing these accomplishments seems to give them a sense of inevitability that tends to minimize their difficulty.  Yet, as I was recently reminded, those difficulties are real and there is a price to be paid for pushing yourself to extremes.  

When I talk about the “price” I am not talking about the time put in for training or other considerations. I am talking about the price of failure. That price can be steep--sometimes very steep. The question is whether that price is worth it. This is something I ponder in every difficult endeavor.

You see on every ultra-marathon, even though I am running       solo, I have an unwelcome running partner who is not very supportive. Running alongside me is the possibility of failure. Because I am choosing to do something that is difficult for me, failure is a stronger possibility than if I had played it safe.

I was running a rugged 50K trail race in Bear Mountain, New York. The course was single-track, rocky, slippery, and had very few truly runnable sections. I felt good about my pace and stayed cautious on the slick, rocky parts. Then, while moving with the pack on a relatively flat stretch, I relaxed for a moment, tripped, and fell hard. I threw out my arms to catch myself, and the pain in my shoulder was immediately excruciating. With help from other runners, I got back to my feet and knew my race was over. I have fallen many times in trail races and am no stranger to pain. Usually, I shake it off and keep going, even if I have to walk at first. This time, though, my only thought was how to get medical help. I knew the injury was serious. It turned out I had broken the humerus in my shoulder.

I couldn’t remember how far it was to the next aid station. The other runners gave me conflicting answers from one mile to seven. While there was an aid station in about a mile and a half it was just a table in the woods with water. Even walking was painful as I had no use of my right arm. As I walked I used my left hand to steady and hold up my right arm. I was extremely lucky when two runners stopped to see if I needed help. One was trained in first aid and said I needed to put my arm in a sling. The other runner who didn’t know the first runner said “I have a roll of gauze.” And presto I had a sling.

While the sling helped, I still had to walk 3.5 miles to take a DNF (Did Not Finish). Yes, I had a solid reason for not finishing this race but I still found it hard to accept that I failed to finish. My very reason for running these races is to overcome difficult obstacles. As each runner passed me the pain of the DNF was more acute. I tried to take solace in the fact that if I hadn’t gotten hurt, I would have finished ahead of most of those runners. Yet I was still down. There would be no finisher medal and t-shirt for me.

It’s not like I was unaware of the possibility. After all when I registered for the race I had to sign a waiver that I was aware of the risks of doing a race like this.

Yet it was not just the DNF and the excruciating pain that I was in that had me thinking. All of the races and runs I had planned for the next couple of months would not happen. There was also the matter of my daughter was getting married in two weeks.

It was at the wedding that I paid another price for my injury. A couple of friends teased me about it. I had always said that ultra-marathons were “fun” which I know most people besides ultra-runners get. Now my friends wanted to know when the “fun” was starting. It is amazing how the result of your performance affects people’s perception of your actions. Last year I completed seven ultra-marathons and people complimented me and admired my accomplishments. Now, after this injury I heard the loud whispers. You are too old. This is too dangerous.

They obviously feel that the price I pay for pushing myself is too high. There is no way it can be worth it.

The question is what do I think of the possible price to attempt races that will test my limits? When I finish them, it is an easy answer. But when I fail, take a DNF, and am seriously injured it is still an easy answer. Yes, I would do the race again. In fact, I am scheduled to do the same race again next year.  Yes, the price was steep for this challenge. Yet those challenges would not be so rewarding if they were easy.

I have usually completed the hard races I’ve signed up for. That success breeds resiliency. That resiliency is what I needed to walk out of the forest and then drive over an hour home so my wife could get me medical care. That may seem like a steep price for one race. Yet the price I pay is for a lifestyle of doing hard things. When you look at all the races it is a small price to pay. In fact, if I include the resiliency and satisfaction of completing runs that were beyond my capabilities when I was younger, the price is miniscule.

We should not only try things when the risk of failure is very low. Easy victories are not life changing. Being afraid of failure will most certainly limit your success. I will admit however that talking about facing failure is easy when you succeed. For me now, I have to accept failure and plan a comeback that will most definitely rely on resiliency.  It will test my patience because this will be a slow and methodical recovery.

This comeback will take more effort to get to the starting line than most of my races took to get to the finish line. This will take more self-motivation than normal. I do have a goal of doing an ultra-marathon in September. It is a flat paved course so there is little risk of falling. Hey, I may be daring, but I am not reckless,

Ironically my motivation now comes from those people who think I should stop these races because of my age. Nothing motivates me more than proving the doubters wrong.

So, I hope I answered the question about the price of the challenge and whether it is worth it. Let me leave you with one final thought. The people who tend to think that the price is too high for pushing yourself, seem to be under the impression that there is no price or cost to bear doing nothing and playing it safe. I believe that there is a price. A steep price in fact. A life of wondering what if? Wondering what would have happened if you tried. A life filled with would’ve and could’ve.

I am not willing to pay that price. As OneRepublic says “Yeah, with every broken bone (literally in this case.) I swear I lived”.

 

 

 

 

 

 

The Running Fall that Derailed a Runner and a Writer

A little more than a week ago, I was on a trail race when I suddenly took a bad fall.  After hitting the ground, I knew immediately my race was over.  The pain in my right shoulder was excruciating.

I have fallen often on these races and usually just get up, walk off the pain and start running again. But this pain was different.  An x-ray confirmed my suspicions: I had broken the humerus bone in my right shoulder.  I am right-handed, so not only did this mean I couldn’t finish the day’s race; this was an injury that was going to hinder my everyday activities.

I prepared myself to make the necessary adjustments for the next few months. No running or races. There would be no driving, great difficulty sleeping, no cooking, and no washing dishes (Honestly, I was able to adjust to this rather easily.) In addition, many of the little things that we all take for granted—such as showering, brushing my teeth, and yes, even going to the bathroom—were going to be much more difficult. While all these things are frustrating, the thing that surprised and upset me the most was my inability to write.

This is not just the inability to use my right hand on the keyboard, although that was the first domino to fall. I realized that there were two options to write. The first would be to hunt and peck with my left hand. That’s obviously a very slow option, though since I am a “hunt and peck” typist now, that’s not as drastic a change as you might think. The other option was to use the “dictate” feature in Word and instead of having the words flow from my fingers, have them flow from my lips.

First, I tried just using my left hand – really just my left index finger – to type. That immediately proved to be frustrating. While I was able to answer emails, it took a lot longer than I wanted. It was like driving to a major event that you are late for and getting stuck behind a tractor-trailer going exceedingly slow uphill with no passing lanes for miles. The thoughts and ideas started backing up in my mind. It was a pileup of jumbled thoughts. While I loved some of the ideas, I ended up walking away from the traffic jam in my head.

Next up was the dictation feature. I thought this would be great. Instead of my fingers putting my thoughts down it would be my lips. Surprisingly, this was even more frustrating. I tried dictating a blog entry but there were times when I had to pause to find the right word and stopped talking. Something was being lost in translation from my mouth. I looked at what I had “written” and it was awful. The writing was so stilted and rigid. It was not even salvageable with editing.

Oh yes, editing. This is the other frustration not having use of my right hand. I am embarrassingly clumsy just moving the mouse with my left hand. While I always have a final work proofed, I have enough pride that I want the draft to be readable. This was not readable.

Since you are reading this you must be wondering what I did. First of all, I realized that there is pace for each writer and that the fingers and the brain work in unison. Sometimes the thought that you originally had comes out differently as you type it – in effect, you’re editing as you commit words to paper.  

You don’t want all your ideas to be trapped in that traffic jam in your head because you can’t get them out fast enough. My fall may have halted many things that I took for granted in life. However, it did ignite one thing in me—the desire to write stories about facing failure, coping with limits and making a comeback. I remember distinctly that as I was taking the painful 3.5 mile walk out of the forest after I fell, the thought occurred to me that this was a great story that I needed to write about.

I am old enough to remember when writing was an extremely time-consuming process. This was before there were laptops and the word processor. For me, typing an article took several steps. First, I wrote it down with pen and paper. Then I typed it up. After which I edited it and typed it again. Even then many of us needed to use a product called “Wite Out” to paint over mistakes and correct them. Deciding to move a paragraph from one place to another meant retyping the whole document. So, writing started as very arduous chore. I needed to adjust back to an earlier time.

To help myself adjust, I took a lesson from my running experience. I am an unusual runner. Most runners settle on a specific type of race and distance. They may do 5Ks, half marathons, marathons, or ultra-marathons. They don’t deviate too much from their comfort zone. I am different. Last year I ran anywhere from a 5K to 66-hour multiday run. From trail races to road races.  The key to adjusting to this variety of races is adjusting your pace. On a 5K I am flying, while during a multi-day race, I take my time and even sleep. So, I am used to adjusting my pace.

My problem in writing was that I was trying to write at a 5K pace when I needed to be going at a much slower pace. Pretty much an ultra-marathon pace. I went to my left-hand hunt and peck method. Yes, it was arduous and frustrating but like rehabbing from a physical injury in running, you have to start somewhere. There is one other thing that is similar to finding new way of writing, which is similar to coming back from a running injury. After I had completed a long arduous comeback from a knee injury in running, I realized what a gift it was to run. I appreciated that running had become part of my identity.

The same is true about writing. While I will never be a best-selling author or someone who is remembered for their graceful prose, it is still part of who I am.  It is worth working hard at to keep it in my life. I did not fully realize this until my fall.

It is not until you face the loss of something and realize that it is part of you that you put a concerted effort into getting it back into your life. You are not only willing to be frustrated, but take the frustration as a good sign.

I am quite frustrated and a bit down since my bad fall in the woods. Yet knowing what my goals are and why I need to achieve them provides me with motivation, patience and contentment on this challenging journey ahead.

How COVID Made me a Better Runner and a More Content Person

As I sit at the keyboard, I realize that it has been about six years since the COVID-19  hit our nation and I was stricken with COVID. Where I live in northern New Jersey it hit early and hard. Yet now it almost seems like a distant memory—as if it was just a bad dream. As a nation we have moved on.  Much has been written on how it affected our society. Nearly all those COVID memories and associations are rightfully negative. Mine are too. Yet if I am completely honest with myself it did change me in some positive ways. I am slightly embarrassed to admit that. Yet it is true that I am more content as a person and a much better runner. Let me explain.

In April 2020, I wouldn’t have believed that I would ever say anything remotely positive about my experience with COVID. I should note that during the pandemic I lost family and friends to the disease. So, I am not saying I would ever want to go through anything so deadly and tragic and scary again. But sometimes we can learn from tragedies.

My COVID story is that when the pandemic hit in mid-March my work immediately became remote. I ran before COVID but now that I did not have my 90-minute daily commute to work, I used that time to run. I naively thought that my running would stave off COVID.  

One day in April I came back from my morning run and noticed on my watch that my heart rate had jumped up to 200 beats per minute. I didn’t feel anything unusual, but I was wary because it was not a hard run and my heart rate was never even close to that before. The next morning, I tried running but at the end had to walk back to my house exhausted. I was an avid runner who had run a 50-mile race and a 50k. Now I couldn’t finish a five-mile run.

I collapsed at my house and then had no energy and a cough brewing. I suspected I had COVID so I went to get a test. Now this was not at a doctor’s office or a hospital, this was when they weren’t doing that. I drove to the parking lot of a local community college and waited in line with other cars while people in hazmat gear checked us in and put a swab up our nose all without us getting out of our car.

I got a call the next day that, I was positive. For the next two plus weeks I was restricted to the den away from my family with a high fever of 102, a persistent bad cough and complete fatigue. My wife would put meals for me at the door. I never thought my life was threatened. I was positive that I would win this fight but very unsure if I would ever run again. Many people never fully recovered from COVID.

Despite my inability to walk or even stay awake for most of the day, something began to rise in me that has made me a much better and more appreciative runner. It was because my mindset changed on running. Suddenly running was not just a fun hobby. It was not just a way to stay fit. It became much more. All of a sudden, I realized that running was part of my identity.  Sometimes you do not realize how important something is to you until it is taken away from you.

I realized that running even at the age of 60 is a gift. Maybe even more so as we age. It was at my weakest moment that my goal was to run again. Not only just run again but to run an ultra-marathon. Admittedly I was motivated by fear. Fear that this gift might be taken from me.

It took about two weeks for my fever to break and a week or so more, for my cough to begin to subside. I felt the urge to move and walk even though I knew that I could not run.  I was motivated by my goal to push myself to run an ultra-marathon. Ironically the day I came down with COVID was the day I was supposed to do a 50k out near Zion National Park. I think this also sparked my goal to do an ultra-marathon. My mind was more focused than ever on being a runner. Yet while my mind was there, my body most definitely was not.

It was unseasonably cold when I went on my first few walks which were only a couple of miles. Before COVID I loved running in cold weather but even though I was bundled up when I breathed in the chilly air the cold seemed to infiltrate my entire body. My training to become a runner began with these short slow walks. Then after a couple of weeks, I began to stretch them out.  Yet I somehow knew I was not ready to run.  I was actually afraid to try to run. What if I couldn’t do it? I needed something to get me to take the next step.

Sometimes on my walks I would go to a local park and hike in the forest. It was here that the “Running Gods” sent me a sign that it was time to run. It was a beautiful day in May and I was hiking in one of my favorite parks when I saw a trail runner approaching me. She stopped when she saw me because I was wearing a T-shirt from an ultra-trail race that I had done.  She had done the same race and was supposed to do it again that very day, but it had been cancelled because of COVID. The pandemic was still raging so we chatted eight or nine feet apart about various races. We ran in the same races. We eventually went our separate ways, but that brief conversation reminded me that I was a runner and needed to run.

The next day I went to our town park which is completely flat and decided I would try and run. I was so nervous. Worse than any pre-race jitters. What if I can’t run? I used to be very confident when I ran but now, I was not. 

As I took my first few strides, I was nervous but then everything began to feel familiar. The comfort of settling into a nice pace. The feel of the wind as you run. Even the sweat that began to drip from my hair. After three and half miles I had my answer, I was a runner again!

After that run I never looked back. I signed up for virtual running challenges. Since my work was still remote, I started to use my commuting time to run.  I had a goal of doing an ultra-marathon and pushed myself more than I had previously to see what I could accomplish.

COVID had taught me one thing and that was that time was precious, very precious. Time is also limited and is not guaranteed. It is a person’s most precious commodity along with good health. I now had both and was not going to squander them. I also told people that I eliminated the word “later” from my dictionary. If I wanted to do something I would not wait to do it later. Later is not guaranteed.

There were almost no in-person races going on that summer as the pandemic was in full swing, I signed up for several virtual challenges and began my daily runs with a new urgency. I was crushing my virtual challenges, but I needed a real race. Yet they were not there. After all, my goal was to run an ultra-marathon.

Finally, a 50k opened up and I immediately signed up. I needed to test myself completely. It was not an easy course and was comprised mostly of single-track trails with plenty of rocks. It was my first test since my battle with COVID. It was not easy but I finished.

That accomplishment completed the change.  From that day forward I pushed myself harder than before and sought out races that would challenge me. After all there was no longer a “later” only the now. Since that moment I have done so many ultra-marathons and crazy runs. I went to Zion to do the 50k that was cancelled, ran a hundred miles seven times, ran the length of my home state of New Jersey (196) miles and even did the Grand Canyon rim-to-rim-to rim run.

I run with more joy because I realize being able to run is a gift. I am also more content not just as a runner but a person because I no longer wait for “later.”